My favourite character in Star Wars wasn’t Luke, or Darth Vader.  Twasn’t princess Leah or Jabba the Hutt either.

And as much as I am tempted to hope that if there is such a thing as reincarnation, I would come back as someone like the dashing and daring Hans Solo, driving the 27th century’s version of the fastest sports car in the galaxy, I know in my heart, as I sit here behind this microphone, that I at the end of the day, I would only want to be Yoda.

That’s right.  I would only want to be the little greenish man with the deep wrinkles and sparse hair who was over 800 years old.

Why?  Because he embraced and unconditionally accepted his age.

Isn’t that why somehow we always felt calm and happy is a quiet kind of way when we listened to his wisdom?

Deep down, wasn’t there a part of you that yearned to feel Yoda’s kind spiritual embrace of his years?

Methinks that because he didn’t waste his time thinking about his grey hair or the tone of his skin, he was able to do other things – like lift a spaceship out of the swamp with a steady hand and a focused brain.

But remember, even though Yoda was over 800 years old, he was also a very playful guy too.

Maybe here again, because he didn’t spend time thinking about how he needed to change his wardrobe to look younger, he was able to keep working out, staying fit and juggle stones in the air without touching them.

It’s time to pull the trigger.

As Jacques Clouseau would say, “out with the bad air, in with the good”.

Is fighting the battle against your grey hair exhausting you?  You know it is.  Is it winning?  Yes it is.  Is it time to let it?  Yes.  “I surrender”.

Are you smile-lines refusing to discount the joys and sorrows you’ve experienced in your “longish” life.  Yes they are, so let them dance and sing on that beautiful perfect face of yours.

And women take it from this man, and I am all man and I’m telling you the truth.  MEN DO NOT CARE ABOUT GREY HAIR AND WRINKLES!!!  We only care about things like, “will you? (fill in the blank) or can you now?” (fill in the blank)…..

Pull the trigger on your attitude, and find your own Yoda-centre so you can one day lift your car out of the ditch on the side of highway 401, with the wave of your hand, the furrow of your brilliant aging brow.

Write us at www.yourrelationshipradio.com,  Pull the Trigger and tell us what you think.

How long has it been since you touched your guitar?  Are you constantly thinking of writing but never put pen to paper?  Chances are - whether it’s a creative venture or something like starting a school or your own business, you have someTHING some DREAM you’ve wanted to pursue.

It’s time to PULL THE TRIGGER on your dream. Time to DO what you’ve always WANTED to do.

And there’s no need to be scared.  I know how big this is in your head, so we’re whittling it down.  To the FIRST, TINY step.  Now - I’m no Teresa Pavlinek but I’ve always wanted to learn about being funny.  You know what I did this week?  I took five minutes to find out where the nearest improv comedy class was.  I went online and I read about it.  I didn’t sign up, I’m not even committed to taking the classes with that particular group but I’m CLOSER than I’ve ever been before.

That’s how you’re going to pull the trigger on your dream in some way this week.  So, if you’ve been thinking about painting - you don’t have to go out and buy the best brushes and books and paint and all that.  Start small.  Take a sheet from the pad of construction paper in your kids’ room or printer paper and get some dollar store paint and brushes.  Give yourself an hour and just go!  Who cares what it looks like.  Who cares if you end up laughing at yourself.  You’ll feel so much better.

We have to stop making our dreams so BIG and UNATTAINABLE in our brains.  We need to just break it down to the first TINY TINY step.  Either go online, read a brochure or pick up the book you bought back when you were feeling more serious about the dream.  And like always - we wanna know how it works out for you - go to yourrelationshipradio.com and tell us how you PULLED THE TRIGGER on your dream.

By Peter Ehrlich

Guys, it’s time to meet the wonderful older woman we’ve talked about at length here today.  It’s time to *Pull the Trigger*.

I’m going to read you something written by Fred Kaiser, made famous by Andy Rooney of 60 Minutes fame.  It’s called In Praise of Older Women.

“As I grow in age, I value older women most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

1. An older woman will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.

2. An older woman knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom.

3. Few women past the age of 40 give a damn what you might think about her.

4. An older single woman usually has had her fill of “meaningful relationships” and “commitment.” The last thing she needs in her life is another dopey, clingy, whiny, dependent lover!

5. Older women are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

6. An older woman has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Older women couldn’t care less.

7. Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to an older woman. They always know.

8. An older woman looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women.

9. An older woman is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Her libido’s stronger.  Her experience of lovemaking is honed and reciprocal and she’s lived long enough to know how to please a man in ways her daughter could never dream of. (Young men, you have something to look forward to.)

10. Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off you are a jerk if you are acting like one.

Men, now’s the moment - Your Relationship Radio’s big bang so to speak.  It’s time to pull the trigger and meet the older woman of your dreams.

Maybe you know who she is right now – maybe she’s that confident, brilliant woman in your office, or that kick-ass horse-trainer at the track?  Whoever she is, today’s the day.  Go meet her for coffee!

Feel free to post your comments here.

Nana Aba Duncan

Are you addicted to Facebook, your dating sites and cell-phone? Think you could NOT check it for 24 hours? What about your Blackberry - how would you feel if I took THAT away? Would someone special in your life appreciate it if you spent more time looking at THEM, talking to THEM, and not some device or machine?

Well it’s time to PULL THE TRIGGER and UNPLUG yourself! That’s no TV, no radio, no internet, no video games, no cell phones, no ipod none of it. Take ONE FULL DAY this month and be completely unconnected!

And don’t go thinking you’ll be bored. There’s a LOT you can do. Remember back when we used write letters - with a PEN and PAPER? Then we’d send them off KNOWING it might be two WEEKS before we’d get a response? Do something like that.

And it doesn’t stop have to stop there - do it with dating. Stop flirting with your computer screen and start flirting IN PERSON at a coffee shop.

Or sit in a room with your partner and just. Talk. Unplug your STUFF and get REALLY connected. Can you do it?? I really don’t know how many of you can, but if you do, you must let us know what happened - after you’ve gone 24 hours unplugged from the online world.

Tell us if you plan to PULL THE TRIGGER and unplug yourself or the result of having done so. We’d love to hear and read your stories on the radio!

Cheers,

Nana Aba Duncan

What is Pull the Trigger?

It’s the siren call to arms - the big call to action, the moment where we’re going to ask you to pull the trigger on a personal relationship or issue because of what was discussed here and now.

It’s Your Relationship Radio’s version of the Big Bang.

And so, welcome to Your Relationship Radio’s first - time to pull the trigger - on kissing!

And so, with no further ado, it’s time to pull the trigger.

Ladies and gentlemen, when’s the last time you kissed your lover, spouse, child? I don’t mean “just kiss”. I’m asking, when’s the last time you kissed someone you love with all the real intent, meaning and passion you can muster?

Did you know that if you kiss your spouse for 60-seconds, you can improve the quality of your relationship by 100%!

Tell us about how you pulled the trigger in regards to kissing someone!